How was your day, Honey?


I had a little surgery last week…which has led to a longer recovery time than I expected. It’s nothing to worry about, friends. It’s just not fun to be lying around while life goes on without me. Heck! I’m missing the Willie Nelson concert tonight at the Georgia Theatre…but it’s true. Things have a way of working out for good! My husband’s gonna take his daddy to the concert…which will be really nice for them. They haven’t had time like that together in a long time. The last time I saw Willie Nelson in concert, I went up to the stage at the end to get Willie’s autograph and instead… Willie reached down from the stage, picked me up, kissed me…then put me down. Then he gave me a crazy look.. you know, an ‘I gotta kiss you now!’ look. And he picked me up and kissed me again. I didn’t get his autograph…just a WET WILLIE! …kinda gross but AWESOME!

And if anyone deserves a night out, it’s my husband. Yesterday, I asked him: “How was your day, Honey?” …and I actually got out a notepad to document it. You see… while I’m recovering from the surgery, he’s doing all the things I normally do to keep our family life going + he’s doing all the things he normally does for our family business too. Here’s what he said:

I got up, tried to crank the van…but didn’t have enough gas, took the trash and recycling to the curb, then drove Rosey and Billups in the other car to school, picked up quart sized jars from the store, then went back home to pick up Kat, drove Kat to school, went to the pickle facility (our family business,) Janet (our employee) said we needed garlic, more jars, “everything!’, I labeled five cases of pickles, loaded them into the car, delivered the pickles to a store in Lilburn, then drove to Atlanta to get 50 cases of jars, then I went to pick up 2 boxes of beans, 1 box of dill weed, some blueberries, and carrots, I shoved all that in the car with the jars, then drove back to Athens. I stopped by Sam’s and picked up a container of peeled garlic and a TV, then went to the pickle facility, unloaded produce and jars, took the blueberries to the house, then grabbed an Arby’s coupon and ate at Arby’s before picking up Billups and Rosey from school, Took Billups to the YMCA, then Rosey and I went to Hilltop Grille to pick up payment for pickles, then we went back to Sam’s because I forgot vinegar, We got gas at Sam’s too, took vinegar to the pickle facility, then picked up Kat from school at 4:30, then drove out to the bank in Madison County to make a deposit, then dropped Kat off at CVS to get hair color and nail polish, then picked up Billups from the YMCA, then picked up Kat from CVS, then picked up pizza to take home.
See why I got out the notepad? Phew!

I guess what this post is about is… I am feeling grateful. On top of all that…he has also been doing all the home-cooking and playing with the kids. Last night…it was a ping pong tournament… Sunday, he made a balancing beam in our front yard for Rosey. I hope our kids know how fortunate they are to have a daddy that plays with them…especially in spite of his crazy schedule. For me…today will be another day of social media. The good things that’ve come out of this dang recovery time are that I’m appreciating my husband a lot more and he’s hopefully seeing how much I usually do for our family ….and with nothing else for me to do but network …I’ve managed to make a lot of new potential customers for our pickles!
Yes, lying around isn’t fun…but I’ve found that when I look for the silver lining, I find it! Don’t magnify the bad—instead magnify the GOOD! The more we talk about good, the larger good becomes. So friends, let’s be positive in our thoughts, moods, words, actions, and how we see others. A tiny part of my mind goes to thinking that maybe my husband’s getting tired of me being in recovery….but if I let my mind stay there…I would be depressed. Instead, I’m focusing on the good things…about how blessed I am to have a husband who has given me so much grace this past week.

20130130-115521.jpgLet the redeemed of The Lord say so, whom He has delivered from the hand of the adversary. ~Psalm 107:2 So…. How was your day, friends?

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If you need a giggle today….watch this video….from my home! HAPPINESS :)

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A Bit Of Inspiration


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Open Your Heart


I’ve done some pretty seemingly crazy things ….spontaneously…without using my brain …only my heart. I’m sure we all have…. Like the time I gave a homeless lady the shoes I was wearing …on my way to lunch with friends. I felt crazy …afterwards …walking into the shoe store barefooted. Noone was there to see that good deed… I got no prize. In fact, the new shoes I purchased to replace the ones I gave away were cheap and ugly and the only walking shoes I had for a decade there after. And that cold, homeless lady snapped at me and made me cry. …which made my toddler daughter in the back seat of my car cry too. haha! Where I’m going with this is: Our faithful daddy in heaven sees all our good deeds and He promises that when we give, we will be given to — “in good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over: ~Luke 6:38. This is also true for the LOVE we give others. I believe the love we give …even if it isn’t received the way we wish it would be at the time… will come back to us. So… don’t give up on people. …and give God the glory for your victories. That’s what this whole life thing is about. I love this quote for today: “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” ~Robert Heinlein

So…. Open the door to your hearts, friends. ….or at least wear your heart well…like the welcome basket that hangs on my friend Meg’s door in the picture above.


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Rape Really Screws Up Truly Living

I was fourteen. I’d never even kissed a boy. I was afraid of not getting home in time for my curfew. So…I got in the car with a guy that was headed back home to the area where I lived and he raped me. The events to follow after that night led me into a life of trying to win the love and trust of my father and finally realizing that would never happen and then ….to just pretending the rape never happened…but it did.

The effects of sexual assault are long lasting and ongoing. Many survivors never tell their stories until many years later after the assault. I know this truth firsthand and the effects of living with the shame and insecurity that follow a rape. I walked away and never got any form of counseling which resulted in some of the unhealthy relationships in my past. This Thursday, June 14th 6:30-9pm …I will be one of the many vendors setting up at the historical Taylor-Grady House in Athens, GA. Kathryn Keith Sims has been hard at work getting vendors for this event she’s calling: A Classic City Evening Of Shopping And Giving. A portion of the nights’ proceeds will benefit the Piedmont Rape Crisis Center which uses a holistic model that encourages survivors of sexual assault to find their best path to healing. I’m attaching the event flyer with the details and hope to see many of my friends there. I’ll be on the porch! Come say hello!

Bring your friends and your pockets full of money! The items I’ve been seeing that will be in the silent auction are awesome! Also…there will be a cash bar provided by Trumps Catering. Yay!

Sexual Assault is a crime…a crime about power and control. Let’s stop it now!

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It’s the guts that make things GOOD!

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TIME is on my side

The mama across the street sits on the steps with her little girl… practicing flash cards …and me? I can barely keep my eyes open. A smidgen feeling of guilt comes over me just for a minute as I pass by the mirror and catch the vision of myself…still in my nighties. It’s Sunday…and usually by now…I would’ve already taken the puppy out, spent time with God, posted an inspiring post on facebook, made breakfast, showered, dressed the kiddies and myself & be putting lunch together after Church. But…not today. Today…I need time to stand still. I need rest. I need I need I need I need I NEED! It’s just one of those days…when the whirlwind of busyness and overload has to be shut out and if I could…I’d spin myself into a cocoon…and not break through the web until I was ready for everyone who depends on me… ’til I was ready to give them the proper energy they need from me.

With a full email inbox, orders, deliveries, events and my creativity all mixed in with my kids being out of school for the summer…with no real schedule… I’m realizing that there really is no allotted time for rest. Relaxing just doesn’t get penciled in on the calendar…and so I’ll just have to fit it in when I can. So…my husband sped out to find some crickets, loaded up the kiddies and our new puppy, and headed out fishing. And…for a second…I wished I was going too. But now…with the house quiet and the sun shining in through my cobweb covered windows…I’m already feeling a little rejuvenated. Maybe it’s because there’s noone here to see me doing nothing. …and maybe I need to give myself permission to just do nothing more often…even smack dab right in front of them. <;-That would feel so weird to me though! 😉

Ha! Just look at my littlest in the above picture. She can conk out anywhere…even under a table on the asphalt at a festival. I think we all should try and be like kids more. Everyday my kids awaken is another day of endless possibilities and even in the midst of all the fun …they can still manage to just zone out and recoup.

Time alone is crucial for being able to spend enough time with yourself to face yourself. …to see yourself and all the components of your life spinning around you…permeating you. I’m thinking today about things that’ve happened to me and how I’ve reacted to those things. In every event… the times I’ve looked inward and given God room to work instead of reacting to people who’ve hurt me… those times have worked out for my good. And vice versa…when I haven’t given room for God to work…things often work out not the best for me. We all have a soul. It is who we are. It gives power to our personalities. I believe we are all perfect…if we’d just reach inside our hearts, grab the love, and throw it out to everyone in every circumstance. Of course…that’s a difficult thing to do…especially when someone does something …be in words or actions…that hurts us. I try to be better all the time…and remember that to God…we are ALL the apple of His eye. And so…I have to be careful with how I react to others…no matter what…for even if they’ve hurt me…they are still just a soul like I am… and that karma thing that I call God will take care of everything. ….if I could just learn to REST in Him and give Him room to work.

With an over-analyzing mind like I have… I have to constantly re-focus and remember the good things. As I uncluttered my ottoman to put my feet up….my Athens Magazine fell to the floor and reminded me that while I’m feeling less than good enough today…there is at least one person who thought enough of me to include me in the cover story featuring… ‘Athens Rising Stars.’ While it seems a bit not-true to me…that I’d be thought of this way…especially that I’d be grouped with the others like Hugh Acheson and Rebecca Lang… it does perk me up a bit. I have to admit…it’s also a little embarrassing! I mean…really? a star?? Well…today, I need this little perk me up and I’ll take it! So….for this I am thankful and I am feeling better now…about doing nothing for at least a little while. Although…the sun is terribly alluring…and I might just have to take the bait and move my lazy self outside to the porch!

So…if you too are having one of those Not-Enough-Time kinda days… re-focus and think back to all the TIME you have spent already…and give yourself a little break. …even if it’s just a few minutes. Pick up a book, your ipod, a photo album…and sit yourself down and look, listen, and reflect a bit. TIME is on your side…really. Trust me! If I could get through the last few months…and still be sorta sane…I know you can too! haha …and also, remember…we are all in this thing called life together. So…OPEN your eyes to the big picture …to the really important things. And…rest in God’s arms a bit. He loves giving hugs!

…& if it’s raining on your day…put on some silly & make it a great day!
Love y’all,

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